For Guys

Get the facts.

For Guys

Get the facts

The Choice Is Yours

If you’re facing an unplanned pregnancy and want help with your next steps, visit Problem Pregnancy.  Problem Pregnancy provides free pregnancy tests, limited ultrasound, and abortion consultations.  Contact us to talk with someone about your situation and learn about all of your options.  All of our services are free and confidential.

So you think she might be pregnant?

Here is some quick advice that might help you right now:

The DOs

STAY CALM: She needs your support now more than ever. Rapid changes in hormones in early pregnancy can make her extremely emotional. She may not seem her usual self which may have already lead to tension and fighting between the two of you before you even knew she was pregnant.

GATHER ALL THE FACTS: Get all the information about the pregnancy and your options, and seek good advice so you can make the best decision for both of you.

TALK ABOUT IT: The situation involves more than just you. You and your partner are in this together.

  • LISTEN to each other and be respectful of eachothers’ feelings .
  • EXPRESS YOURSELF SENSITIVELY. It’s normal to have feelings of anger, frustration, and fear. But make sure she knows she is not alone.
  • CONSIDER TALKING WITH TRUSTED FRIENDS/FAMILY. Hiding the news from people who can genuinely help you sometimes increases the stress.

COME WITH HER TO HER APPOINTMENT: The counselors at Problem Pregnancy are here for you, too. Let us help both of you work through your feelings and unique situation so that you are both comfortable with the outcome.

The DON'Ts

DON’T ASSUME SHE DOESN’T WANT YOUR HONEST INPUT. Sometimes men feel that telling her, “I will support you whatever you decide” is the right thing to say. However, this often makes the woman feel she is more alone.

DON’T BAIL: The more you run from this, the harder it becomes to think and act clearly.

DON’T PRESSURE HER: Applying pressure will only push her away, possibly into a regretful situation. It is better to work together as a team.

DON’T FORGET: You have a very active role in this situation. Listen to input as well as give your honest thoughts.

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Know The Facts

We are here to help you understand all your options so that you can make an informed decision. It is your pregnancy, your right to know, and your decision. Call or schedule an appointment at Problem Pregnancy.

Questions & Answers

According to the Mayo Clinic, an estimated 10-25% of all clinically recognized pregnancies will naturally end in a miscarriage. “Miscarriage”, medically known as “spontaneous abortion”, is the common term used to describe a natural end to a pregnancy. Problem Pregnancy offers a limited ultrasound to qualified women to confirm a viable (developing), intrauterine (in the uterus) pregnancy. In many cases, the ultrasound can be performed during the same visit.

If fetal viability is not established, then you are a candidate with a high probability of miscarrying. Miscarriage is your body’s natural way of ending a pregnancy. In a case like this you would not need the pain, cost, and risk of an abortion!

  • Severe cramping of the uterus or pelvic pain
  • Diarrhea
  • Headache
  • Dizziness
  • Fatigue
  • Emotional or psychological distress
  • Abdominal pain and cramping
  • Nausea
  • Vomiting
  • Back pain

Medical abortion information from the Mayo Clinic 

Some of the most common surgical abortion procedures include manual vacuum aspiration, dilation and curettage, and dilation and evacuation. If you choose to have a surgical abortion you may want to consider an ultrasound-guided procedure as they have been determined to result in fewer complications.

The risks for any surgery are: Hemorrhaging (bleeding) and Infection

Additional risks of surgical abortion include:

  • Excessive bleeding (hemorrhaging)
  • Infection of the uterus
  • Infection of the fallopian tubes which can cause scarring and infertility
  • Puncture or perforation of the uterus
  • Scarring of the uterine lining (suction tubing, curettes, and other abortion instruments may cause permanent scarring of the uterine lining)
  • Damage to the cervix creating complications with future pregnancies
  • Death, in rare circumstances

Other risks can include:

  • Premature births with future pregnancies
  • Incomplete removal of the fetus, placenta or contents of the uterus

It may be possible to reverse the effect of the abortion pill. If you change your mind after taking the first abortion pill, mifepristone, time is of the essence. For more information, call the Abortion Pill Reversal Hotline 877-558-0333.

Before taking the Morning After Pill, you should understand what it is, what it could mean to your health and how it works. 

The “morning after pill” is a large dose of oral contraceptive known as Plan B One -Step. It is a single pill you take by mouth. It must be taken within 72 hours (3 days) after unprotected sex or birth control failure to help prevent pregnancy.

Plan B is believed to act as an emergency contraceptive principally by preventing ovulation or fertilization. In addition, it may inhibit implantation. It is not effective once the process of implantation has begun. Plan B is intended to avoid potential pregnancy, so it is important to confirm you are not pregnant before taking this emergency contraception option.

If your period is more than a week late, it is possible that you may be pregnant. You should get a pregnancy test and follow up with your health care provider or come to Problem Pregnancy for a pregnancy test and consultation.

  • Emergency contraception is not effective if a woman is already pregnant.
  • Plan B should not be used as routine contraception
  • Plan B does not protect against HIV infection (AIDS) and other sexually transmitted infections.
  • The most common side effects in the Plan B clinical trial were nausea, abdominal pain, fatigue, headache, and menstrual changes.
  • Because Plan B makes the uterus inhospitable to the developing embryo, it may lead to an ectopic pregnancy
  • The manufacturer warns that Plan B is not recommended for routine use as a contraceptive
  • Use of Plan B may result in an ectopic pregnancy. If you experience severe lower abdominal pain 3-5 weeks after taking Plan B, seek medical attention.

Problem Pregnancy does not provide emergency contraception but can provide you with education and pregnancy testing.

The price of an abortion can range from several hundred to several thousand dollars. The final cost is dependent on multiple factors: how far along you are in your pregnancy, what type of abortion you have, your health insurance, the type of clinic you go to, and your choice of anesthesia.

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